The Ending

Hello Everyone,

I have the ending for you today, at least the ending to my virginity auction.

The bidding closed yesterday as planned (high bid was $801,000), but I am here to tell you that the terms of the auction will not be fulfilled. I have decided it is time to put a stop to this kerfuffle (to describe it nicely) and return my focus to my medical training. I still do possess some spitefully strong beliefs about virginity, prostitution, and a woman’s right to do as she damned pleases, but school is my first priority (as it has been for my entire life). At this point, I no longer care about the auction, at least not nearly enough. This was a very easy decision.

However, this does not mean I do not care about the people I have met along the way, the heap of life lessons I have been given, the personal transformation that could not be helped, and the social causes that I have discovered. All of these things have real meaning, as opposed to the money. And while this experience has had its ups and downs (and yes, this past week was a down), I am truly so much better for it.

And this is not the end of my story, only the end of my auction. I will continue to be here blogging, reflecting on this journey, dissecting social issues, and documenting my return to “normal” life. While there are so many things I have loved about this experience, this blog is unquestionably one of my favorites. I hope you will continue to visit!

Love always,

Elizabeth

P.S. I might change the blog title. Please let me know if you think of anything clever and perhaps more appropriate (even though I truly hate the word appropriate, as opposed to the word whore).

P.P.S. I hope you are not too disappointed, I do realize this is another virginity auction stopped short. Honestly though, having tried it, I think there is always going to be something. I will be discussing this further in a later post.

47 thoughts on “The Ending

  1. Really? Knocking 40 and never had loving sex? Perhaps, developing healthy relationships should be a priority. I hope you find love and satisfaction.

  2. Personally I love the irony in the current title. I also feel that people tend to misunderstand titles and their purpose, something I’ve experienced personally in my writings, but like how in your case it brings ignorance to the forefront. In this judgmental, self-righteous, hypocritical world we live in, the entire process of what you have done and are still doing on some levels is nothing short of refreshing in my eyes. Women who marry rich men and have fancy cars, large homes and expensive clothes are called sophisticated, while someone like you who is ultimately coming away for a lot less while being a lot more honest about your intentions is called a prostitute. Keep doing what you’re doing and don’t ever let anyone chip away at what you call right and wrong. Love yours story and hope to read more about your adventures. If I think of a clever name I’ll post it later

  3. Pingback: Is Chastity Worth It? That’s the $801,000 Question | Acculturated

  4. I respect personal choice and norm challenges, but my big concern is more physicians with money as a prime motive. They lack prudent discretion and obviously commit fraud and malpractice. The most prestigious doctor I’ve met I asked why he chose his specialty, just after a surgery. He replied, “I thought it’d be interesting… and a challenge.”

    His millions after years of excellence and dedication lie in the background.

  5. I hope that your school recognizes that they have no right to dictate what you do with your body.

    I’ve enjoyed your writing, and will continue to follow your blog whatever title you may give it.

    Also, screw the Daily Mail.

  6. Pingback: Student auctioning virginity pulls out after $801k winning bid

  7. Pingback: Self-Described 'Med School Virgin' Hanna Kern Calls Off Auction After Dubious $801K Bid - AltoSky - AltoSky

  8. Pingback: Self-Described ‘Med School Virgin’ Hanna Kern Calls Off Auction After Dubious $801K Bid | ONews.US - Latest Breaking News

  9. Pingback: Self-Described 'Med School Virgin' Hanna Kern Calls Off Auction After Dubious $801K Bid | Omaha Sun Times

  10. Pingback: Self-Described 'Med School Virgin' Hanna Kern Calls Off Auction After Dubious $801K Bid | We Report

  11. i see the word ‘adventure’ more than once in the replies above, and i think it should figure in the new title. something like ‘adventures of a modern virgin’, and i do hope this is only the opening chapter. the auction may have ended, but your virginity and your cause have a long ways to go!

  12. Someone I know posted an article about you and your blog, followed by the words bimbo. This got me thinking about how much shaming other women do to eachother. If you ask me I think this way is better than giving it to some a-hole for free who probably doesn’t deserve it anyway. It also makes me question the whole dowery thing in other countries. I don’t think those people consider themselves bimbos or whores. People make me sick. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself.

      • I have so enjoyed reading this blog the past few days – it’s been so interesting to see how people all around the world have been reacting to your auction posted on the Internet. With all of the inconsistencies on your auction website, blog, etc., this will be great discussion material in college communication and media courses about publicity, Internet business practices, mov mentality on the internet. I think your credibility is shot in terms of speaking about sex and women’s issue on your blog is concerned. I think you’re wasting your time with any further blogging – your real impact on the world is going to be what you do as a doctor. I’m also wasting my time on this blog at this point so I won’t comment further. Good luck to you. I hope you do something positive with your life.

    • I agree. They are probably the most marginalized, stigmatized, and misunderstood population in any society. And I am sorry to say I completely overlooked them prior to this experience. But I won’t in my future, and that is unquestionably one of the greatest positives of this experience.

  13. Pingback: The Detroit Cast #091 | The Detroit Cast

  14. Sigh. Disappointed and relieved, a bit of both. However, it is also difficult to construct an opinion without knowing the details. As for the blog, I hope you continue to bring forth the issues caused by the asymmetrical standards of our society. In spite of the informative posts and valid arguments that you make, sometimes your opinionated personal commentary is a bother to read. Nonetheless, it is interesting. Relevant poem: “The Guy in the Glass”
    by Dale Wimbrow.

  15. very easy decision for you and our
    Thank for removing this thinking
    I wish your future study and good life (but I don’t know your genetic system)

    Capee

    But don’t nor is something trick

  16. Hi Liz -I was curious to know what happened since the auction ended:

    1. Are you keeping all of the bidders’ $100 fees, refunding the money to the bidders or donating the money to charity?

    2. Are your face pictures on your blog pictures of someone else? If they belong to a real person/med student, why hasn’t anyone in the media published your real name on the news outlets yet? If the pictures of you are authentic, it doesn’t make any sense to me your identity is still unknown to the public.

    3. In my curiosity about how public relations and the Internet works, I have enjoyed reading your blog just to see how people reacted, how the media covered your story, etc. Given that you’ve chosen to remain anonymous, do you think people really truly care about your opinions about sex, women, virginity and all of your thoughts unrelated to the actual virginity auction?

    4. All of the subjects you’ve blogged about relating to women and sexual attitudes are written about by learned scholars in these areas and others who have massive experience with these issues firsthand – do you think people will continue to visit your blog to hear what you have to say?

    5. Because your identity has not been revealed in the media up to now, I do believe your identity will forever remain anonymous and you will suffer no repercussions from conducting your auction. I also think all of the opinions/comments you received about the auction and your blog are meaningless – none of them are going to affect you because you’re going to continue on with your life in your way, guided by your own decisions and thoughts. Besides collecting the $100 fee you’ve collected from each bidder, do you feel that the auction accomplished anything for you? If so, what? Do you think you could’ve accomplished the same goals/realizations in another way which did not involve the Internet or such a public forum?

    6. Do you realize that because your real name has not been revealed in the media, the majority of intelligent people out there will think your auction was a publicity hoax, university sociology experiment about the internet and/or a scheme to make money via the $100 fee for bidding? Knowing that, will you continue to spend your time blogging?

    7. If privately, without revealing yourself to the public, you do decide to lose your virginity to the public from one of the bidders, will you please stop glorifying selling your virginity to the public? A lot of unintelligent, misguided and mentally ill women out there are getting the idea right now that they should have sex for money because they think it’s “cool” and “brave” that you had a virginity auction. Many of them need money, will follow through and sell their virginity for money or have sex for money, almost surely resulting in some of them contracting the HIV virus, getting sick, getting assaulted or possibly murdered because of that. Extremely desperate and misguided women may see the pretty picture of you, admire that you’re a medical student, see how much media attention you’re getting and become sex worker, thinking it’s glamorous. Although you’re not trying to be a role model for anyone, just consider the negative message you send out to women by “glamorizing” you auction/business venture.

    8. If you truly want to be a healer/doctor in the future, consider the power of the Internet and consider how your seemingly private auction has negatively affected/influenced women – can you do something publicly to reverse this negative message you have sent to the world?

    • I think “Ruth” may be a guy that bid and lost his $100? Just a thought. Live and let live….or a popular song here lately “Let it go, let it go”

  17. I call BS on this. For her to back out after weeks of hearing her spew her beliefs and staunchly support what she was doing and why, I find it realllly difficult to believe that the reason is she wants to return to her studies. Something obviously went sideways with this. Having said that, she now has hundreds of dollars of non-refundable bidding deposits to go play in Vegas with…and maybe she’ll lose her virginity there.

    • hundreds of dollars probably doesn’t even pay for the photos she had taken and getting the website created.

  18. I very much enjoyed reading your blog and following your story as well as the other articles and stories you have referenced. Some very insightful stuff, really opened up a new topic to research and learn more about. I hope that this experience really allows you to connect with your future patients and become the great physician we all know you will become. Good luck with your career and know you have inspired many others to learn more about the world and the people in it.

  19. Darnit… I was looking forward to hearing what you got up to on your 12 hour long date. No, not the sex, I kind of figured out how that bit was gonna go. :D

    But 12 hours? And especially at night… I guess you could have slept most of it, but that’s not really much of date. 24 hour casino? Watching Netflix? Playing Monopoly? Longest date I ever went on was a day out at an amausement park – it was brilliant fun.

  20. Pingback: Med student, 28, who had planned to auction off her virginity with the highest offer at $801k backs out | Life in St kitts

  21. As a psychologist, I think this was one great social experiment to see how people would respond to an intelligent, beautiful, educated woman that had the balls to LITERALLY take control of her own life. You educated people about the life of women in Saudi Arabia and where you stand on sex workers. Your political stance is what earned my respect and why I chose to follow your blog and will continue to follow your blog. YOU MAKE ME THINK and I appreciate that.

    That being said, How about this for a title: Thoughts of an almost whore. Have a wonderful day.

  22. Pingback: Medical Student Elizabeth Raine Cancels Virginity Auction

  23. Actually, I am a bit disappointed, but not in you. It is too bad the immense publicity prevented you from focusing on your work. Plexico, good name ;) but I do think the current title is still perfect.

  24. Let’s see some of those high bidders make their own choice to donate even a fraction of that money to women’s education & health in developing countries!!!

    • No one’s willing to waste that kind of money on an average woman. Especially a whore. This kind of degeneracy is why we need an Islamist revolution in America. First it’s miscegenation and buttbanditry, now it’s pricing virginity in the hundred thousands.

      • just only comments and thoughts like you make is why we don’t need any islamist revolution anywhere. This is a prime example of intolerance and passive aggressiveness that leads to civil wars as exampled by syria, libya and egypt. I usually tolerate a lot but I don’t tolerate intolerance. And allthough I’m usually fighting for more tolerance examples like this make want to ban religion in its whole and islam as first prio not from just one country but from the entire world. yep sometimes I’m a hypocrit too fighting intolerance with intolerance.

  25. This whole fiasco is so ridiculous. Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world. Who really cares who this “Elizabeth Raine” person sleeps with. For all we know she created this whole situation to garner attention, and is probably not even a virgin. This has gained national media coverage, are we really so naive to think that she wouldn’t be recognized on her college campus if she is indeed a medical student to begin with? For all we know she’s a 16 year old high school girl working at the local Starbucks. If she is so concerned with the sexual exploitation of females, why not put her “almost” money where her mouth is, and have pledged to donate the money to some legit causes that she expresses such deep concern for? “Liz”, you don’t sound as bright as you claim you are.

  26. Good on you Liz. Although I don’t agree with the auction. I do fell like a person’s virginity is nobody’s business but there own.

    Wish you all the success in med school and life

  27. OK, here are some suggestions for a new blog title since you can no longer be taken seriously as a whore:

    If the movie “Million Dollar Arm” does well, you might want to ride its coattails with the title, “Eight Hundred and One Thousand Dollar Vagina.” No? Don’t like that?

    How about “Sex and Justice?”

  28. WOW!.. People have been waving their hands in front of my face to get my attention the past few days. Saying “Hello! Anybody home! I’m talking to you”. :)

    It was only when I stopped to question my objectivity with you that I realized I was in some kind of intoxicating vortex. You say you’re charismatic, and you are.

    I support your decision, and am glad to hear you will continue to share with us. There are people you meet a long the way that make you feel happy and comforted about sharing the world and existence with. And You, are one of them..X

    Thank you for sharing with us Liz :-) X

  29. $801,000 does not even begin to scratch the surface of how valuable you are, Liz.

    Not because of your body. Not because of your virginity. Not because of your mind, your wit or your flare.

    You are invaluable because of the heart that beats inside you. You are invaluable because of the dreams that swirl in your head. You are invaluable because of the causes that break your heart and stir your soul.

    For what it’s worth, I’m so glad you’ve decided to shift your focus and pour yourself into your studies. You’ve got quite a mind inside, Liz, this whole thing is evidence of it.

    Looking forward to your next adventure. Looking forward to the ways in which you use all of your you-ness – all of your worth – to influence this world for good.

    You are so, so loved.

  30. I could write a lot, but I’ll only say this for now: I suspected for awhile that all the detail on your website, the existence of this insightful blog, and your willingness to respond to comments made this “auction” not merely about the value of virginity, but instead about deep and complex questions about the worth of our lives–though you started out only dimly aware of your underlying motivations. And I think that is what drew me to following it as well.

  31. Win, win. I am quite happy for you to remain focused and if one of them gents actually would invest on you to remain a wirging like I had done with others in the past, hooray for that man. Title for this blog could be… How Patriarchy is told in our face and we still don’t see it…

  32. Aw, I’m sorry you decided to back out so soon, but I’m actually glad you backed out on it. For someone as thoughtful and smart as you, I have always hoped that your introduction to sex would be magical and romantic. I supported your right to choose to sell that experience, even if it made me sad.

    Was it just plain cold feet, or was there something about the winner that nixed it? I know some said they’d pay you to keep your virginity — was the winner one of these?

    Yes, you must change the name of your blog. While I agree with you that consenting adults should be allowed to make sex-for-money arrangements, false advertising pisses me off!!! In my best Maury Povich voice: “You are …. NOT a whore!”

  33. Well, this was a surprise! I have to say, as positive as I was for you during this auction, I’m just as positive for you that you didn’t complete it. It must be good for your ego that the high figure was $801,000…I wish someone would pay me such a compliment. Ending this experiment with the “Blessing of the high bidder” tells us that there is much more to this story than you’ve reported. Now that you have the world’s attention, I hope you keep up with this blog…you’ve taught us all something about our culture…maybe it will start people to thinking about how we treat each other and how we value our relationships.
    If you can get over your fear of relationships, there are some very lucky people out there in your future…and I wish you love!

    Make it count,
    Steve Bradley

  34. Aahhhh to bad. But I gave it a 50-50 chance this would happen though. Still interested in all the reasons and thoughts coming with that decision.

  35. Whew! Good for you for listening to your heart. I think this whole thing got way out of hand. Good luck on your test and future…where ever that may lead you. May your story be filled with adventure!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s